Been with him for 5 yrs & hes still married to his first wife and they both share an 8yr old she wont let him see her since she turned 4yrs old but cries about her expressing how much he misses his babygirl. No baby should be murdered by its mother. purchasing sperm from a donor, via a cryobank ??. There are different ways to go about this, like: Hi. I always thought she would come back to me somehow but only in my sleeping dreams and waking thoughts. This is the worst pain Ive ever felt and the most heartbroken and devastated Ive ever been. I cry all the time and I dont think Ill ever stop. I still do. As opposed to most elective . I miss my baby every minute of every day. In a recent post on the Reddit forum TwoXChromosomes, an anonymous user shared her feelings about her upcoming abortion: Little Thing: I can feel you in there. I have an 11 month old and a 13 year old from my husbands first marriage. And soon I'll get my own fingers and toes. My husband is dead set against it and Im not sure what to do. I too, am at the beginning of my career and am receiving more opportunities to advance as well but I have a long way to go. We agonized over what to do and spent a week making our decision which whilst incredibly painful was ultimately the right one for us. Says he can no longer trust me as I betrayed him for the past 10 years. Please Mommy, don't let them hurt me- Do NOT submit poems here, instead go to the. Two years later in our relationship, he did end up confessing to me that the abortion caused him to resent me. In a letter published at The Public Discourse, leaders of the American College of Pediatricians, American Association of Pro-Life Obstetricians and Gynecologists and other medical groups explained their support of the Born Alive Abortion Survivors Protection Act. I didnt know you, but I loved you. We chose to end our family after two children. But heres the problem, my husband and I are happily married. However I was with a married man who did not want this and it was an accident. And way farther along than I thought. Gabrielle Kruger There are so many things I am looking forward to, and I can't wait to be held in your arms and taught by the very best mama I can think of! And then I blurt out, without any grace, and much louder than I intend, Im pregnant. His eyes get wide as frisbees and he says, Wait. I know it not quite the same but its just how I feel. I was so confused, so afraid and I let fear take over my life. Realizing it is her choice and respecting her decision has been rough but weve grown these past few weeks. Maybe you feel as if your world has been turned upside-down. I stand beside her and encourage her that she made the best decision she could. The article reappeared in 1980, and was turned into a song in 2005. . Because we still didnt get married when our family asked us we use to say next year next year but now I dont think if its ever gone happen. He advised me continuing the pregnancy would be a danger and I decided more so on my own after talking with my mother if it was the right decision to make for the baby. Please keep your baby. The Baby Must Be. Please look into and join the face book group I Regret My Abortion there is a logo of a rainbow. I found out I was pregnant exactly two years ago this weekend. A heart touching letter from a unborn baby to his mother baby is very happy when he is conceived and think that his mother is world's best mom and he share his happiness with his mother telling her all his activities and growing stages in her tummy but his parents decide to abort this baby.. prayatn Follow Advertisement Advertisement Recommended Yes, Im still pregnant. I know I made the right decision, but seeing him with his kids now breaks my heart bc he didnt want the one with me right now. Like something to be dealt with, a burden that was his cross to bear. This moved me. I am pregnant now and I know many other girls who have had an abortion that have had children. Her due date has passed now. I cant make up my mind. And understand that by forcing your boyfriend to do something he isnt ready for you may ruin your relationship with him. I recently experienced my first pregnancy, at 19 years of age and with four years of nursing school ahead of me. I go into a patient room for questions and Im told your dad can join me later for the mini-counseling session. I'll be able to hear the sound of your voice. Children cannot eat love and so please think about your financial situation. Im booked in for abortion on Thursday, Im already a single mum to two kids. But i wanted to say thank-you because your post was something i came across before i went in for my abortion and it brought me to tears. I have a 13 year old with my boyfriend and we live together. Cate, I was a 19 year old college student with absolutely no plans to marry or have kids at that point. From a mother's letter to her aborted child: "It's been a decade and still my blood runs cold and I catch my breath whenever I hear the word " abortion." Space there is an emptiness inside of me that can never be filled, a chill that has never quite been warned, a grief that will Continue reading "A Mother's Letter to Her Aborted Baby" We dont say any words, but our embraces tell each other that we did the right thing. I knew she hurt for me too. I love this story. After decades of keeping her . Thank you for sharing your story, I made a promise to myself my decision was not in vain and Im almost done with my bachelors degree. Must be awful. I havent seen her since after I delivered her, I immediately went whom and my sister arranged everything after she found out what happened , because I needed help so I called her.. I was pursuing an academic career and never had the chance. You deserve the acceptance and tolerance of a choice that is yours and yours only. Do I honor my heart and have another sweet lamb, potentially subjecting this human to another absentee parent who secretly resents their existence- OR- do I get the abortion. I was its mother. I chose to have an abortion for many reasons, including those I just mentioned. How do you know? I pull out the test and show him the two pink lines. I wanted to be your everything. I know my baby deserves a life I couldnt of given her now or at that time and I know one day she will come back to me, I get excited when i think about meeting her finally one day when we are both ready, I wish I had support here so I could cry to someone who gets it, Im 23 and I had my abortion at 5 weeks and three days in April. I read this the night before my appointment for my abortion. I also feel like taking that risk, that my baby is worth the sacrifice. It haunts me every day . Except I really dont want kids so shell never get the chance to come back to me. I think Id end up more broken than ever. Ebony Angel B. I cant imagine what I would have done if I wasnt able to have an abortion. Im playing the song you listened to sobbing. Id give anything to see my baby smile. "Please pray for this woman to continue to stand firm in her choice to give life to her unborn baby," the pro-life organization wrote. Im in the beginning of my nursing school. Weve been married about 10 years and I have children from my previous marriage that she loves as well but cant help being jealous of. My pregnancy was miserable I was depressed and anxious all the time and often wondered if I made the right choice but the day my son was born I knew I made the right choice. An Ohio lawmaker proposing a near-total abortion ban was given a hypothetical: A 13-year-old girl is raped and becomes pregnant as a result. He even started pulling out old toys and other items from when his own children were young. I took the morning after pill and it failed. "I didn't touch you, but I felt you. Since I found out I was pregnant my life has been a living hell my husband immediately voiced we couldnt handle this right now, and though I was emotional about it at first, I knew he was right. Don't listen to the voices saying it'll be easier when I'm gone. My best friend just found out she is pregnant a few days ago and she is only 19. Emotionally I suffered very badly for the first 2 weeks after the abortion (even to the point of being suicidal at times which is massively out of character for me) I was warned that pregnacy hormones around this time are at their strongest and to expect extreme moods. Even though I knew none of the other ladies who were there for the same reason I felt like I was not going through it alone. Im 23 years old. I recently just had my second abortion in 9 months . Thank you for writing this. I think about it most days (I would be due on 30th May which coincidentally is my birthday) but I dont dwell on it anymore and do appreciate that for me it just wasnt the right time and I was not ready or prepared to give a child the life it deserves. When you make this list of pros and cons, I think it will help you understand the reality. He abandoned me and hung up on me when I told him a few weeks ago. Constant regret and pain . I dont know what to do but I see no way out of this. I feel like you put my experience and feelings into words. I dont want to lose you. Im not mad at you anymore. And even though he ejaculated irresponsibly, and voiced that he wanted me to become pregnant.. as soon as I was, we both knew what needed to happen and he was on board. I worry everyday about what y child will be like when he is here, how y decision is going to have an impact on the people around me, on those closesest to me. I was so lonely and had nobody to talk to, man I really thought I was gonna go crazy when we took the break. I miss my baby every day. Many of my patients have gone through the same thing, and it is never easy. Ill always be one. I know a lot of people do this to help them grieve for their unborn babies. A month ago i started feeling sick and tired. I know one day when everything is settled down and fine she/he will come again and Ill be more prepared. I want two more children. I never talked to people about it after. So I can understand your conflicting emotions. Published Jul 29, 2015. My boy ( yes, For some crazy reason at that time, I wanted to find out the sex of the baby through the blood test they do to check chromosomes and it was a boy) would be 7 years old. Im grateful I was in a position to have options and make a choice as a woman. Best of luck! When your raised in foster care it is because there is virtually no one else willing or able to care for you as a child. I feel guilty because I strjuglle to show real excitement when I know others want to when they find out and I feel so false trying to bounce off their energy. Im now 11 weeks and as soon as I found out I was pregnant he has gone back to abusing alcohol. I received my bachelors degree in adolescent counselling just last June. Weve trien for 8 yeats now and decided that if I turned 30 which is Dec of this year and I am not pregnant, we will give up. Except for some personal references her letter is reproduced in full. Hi, Mommy. In the end this is her choice and all I can do is support her to the best of my ability. Well, I made it out alive. I wish this decision wasnt so hard. I decide abortion at week 6. If you can't take Reading this story and the comments gave me some of the comfort I needed. Keeps chugging along with home remodel and building his shop, and when I remind because Im STRUGGLING with being left with this choice. I hope that there wasnt a little soul in there yet . I felt very depressed after I let you go - many days were hard to face, some I didn't. I told myself it was hormones. I told my husband minutes before we left to go camping. It always feels unfair that the times I get pregnant, I had to terminate the pregnancy. We want to give our child the best life possible, and now is not that time. Babies need around the clock care for decades; they are nothing like pets. Hesitantly I got the pill, I was just a day before 10 weeks, I held my baby and cried until I couldnt. A few days later I had a surgical abortion. I thought the tears would stop but they dont. But tbh, by that point in our unhealthy relationship I had enough resentments of my own towards him to really care much. Listen to your heart, there is no wrong choice. Dont worry though youre not pregnant!. My heart would of gotten excited despite starting all over again.